This week I’ve been sharing some funny stories about events that took place while I was in Elementary school. These stories helped me learn lessons that have stayed with me for a lifetime.
Today is the final part and just a quick disclaimer. Sorry if this story is a little crude or if it’s too much information, but the lesson has stuck with me.
There was a guy named Sean who went to our elementary school who was very aggressive. He was a little bigger than everyone else and also a little stronger. To put it mildly, he was a bit of a bully. However, while many of the kids found themselves on the wrong end of a Sean beating, he actually treated me like a friend. I even went to his house from time to time to play video games (he had a Spectrum 128K Plus 2 after all, a little similar to the Commodore 64).
Most kids watched their back when Sean was around, not me, I didn’t feel threatened, so I didn’t feel the need. That was until one day. I remember sitting in class and the whole, I need the bathroom pretty quick feeling came over me. I raised my hand to ask the teacher if I could go (they didn’t always let us go to the bathroom during class). This time the teacher let me go, so I ran out of the room and went straight to the boy’s room. Now our bathrooms were pretty ugly. We had two stalls that the locks didn’t work and instead of a line of urinals we had what I can only describe as a pig troth. It was one big urinal designed for up to five or six guys to stand there doing their business at once.
So I ran into the bathroom and went straight to the pig troth. As I stood there doing what you do in a bathroom, Sean walked in. I said hi and carried on emptying my bladder. Then suddenly Sean comes right up behind me, totally unprovoked and pushes me forward. As he stood their laughing I had just pee’d over all my clothes and was dripping wet! I am just thankful on this day I remembered by PE Kit (check Part 2 of this blog to find out about PE Kits), because that is what I spent the rest of the day wearing. Oh, I always watched my back when Sean as around after that.
So what’s the lesson? I discovered that day how important it is to look at how people treat others when deciding if I can trust them. Some guy maybe as nice as pie to me, but if he tries to control his wife and those around, one day he’s going to try to control me. One woman may do me right, but if she is dishonest with other people, she will one day be dishonest with me.
You cannot use how someone treats you as a benchmark as to whether you can trust them, trust should only be given when you how a complete view of how they treat the other people in their lives. Imagine if David had done this exercise when he decided to trust King Saul? He probably would not have gone through all those years on the run as Israels most wanted!
So who are you trusting that you shouldn’t be? Just remember the way they treat others will eventually be the way they’ll treat you!