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Quality instead of Quantity

When was the last time you spent quality time with the ones you love?

When I mean quality time I do not mean just an afternoon or a few hours, I mean an extended amount of time just fully focused on those loved ones?

This weekend my wife and I devoted our weekend to quality time with each other. We spent the whole weekend together totally unaffected by outside influences. Many times we can say we spend quality time, but other things such as TV, Phones, agendas and schedules can stop the time being quality.

On Saturday we got up, went to the beach (our phones had no signal!), ate dinner together that evening and spent four hours in the car, just us talking. Then Sunday we got up, went to church then just had fun walking around some stores before finishing the weekend watching a movie together,

Doesn’t sound like much, but it really was quality time. You see we weren’t pre-occupied by our schedule. We weren’t constrained by time, we didn’t have to rush to get anywhere and we didn’t have other things getting in our way.

Sometimes you need weekends like this. Your loved ones need your undivided attention. They don’t need a couple of hours of your time; they need to know from time to time that they are the most important thing for them. They aren’t an appointment in your schedule and they aren’t competing for your attention from other influences. Whether it is your kids, your spouse, your friends or your family, sometimes all they need is just you and only you!

So really ask yourself, when was the last time I spent quality time with my loved ones? For some of you it has been a long time! If so, rip up that schedule and just do it! Your loved ones need YOU more than your schedule.

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Lessons From Elementary School – Part 3

This week I’ve been sharing some funny stories about events that took place while I was in Elementary school. These stories helped me learn lessons that have stayed with me for a lifetime.

Today is the final part and just a quick disclaimer. Sorry if this story is a little crude or if it’s too much information, but the lesson has stuck with me.

Lesson Three

There was a guy named Sean who went to our elementary school who was very aggressive. He was a little bigger than everyone else and also a little stronger. To put it mildly, he was a bit of a bully. However, while many of the kids found themselves on the wrong end of a Sean beating, he actually treated me like a friend. I even went to his house from time to time to play video games (he had a Spectrum 128K Plus 2 after all, a little similar to the Commodore 64).

Most kids watched their back when Sean was around, not me, I didn’t feel threatened, so I didn’t feel the need. That was until one day. I remember sitting in class and the whole, I need the bathroom pretty quick feeling came over me. I raised my hand to ask the teacher if I could go (they didn’t always let us go to the bathroom during class). This time the teacher let me go, so I ran out of the room and went straight to the boy’s room. Now our bathrooms were pretty ugly. We had two stalls that the locks didn’t work and instead of a line of urinals we had what I can only describe as a pig troth. It was one big urinal designed for up to five or six guys to stand there doing their business at once.

So I ran into the bathroom and went straight to the pig troth. As I stood there doing what you do in a bathroom, Sean walked in. I said hi and carried on emptying my bladder. Then suddenly Sean comes right up behind me, totally unprovoked and pushes me forward. As he stood their laughing I had just pee’d over all my clothes and was dripping wet! I am just thankful on this day I remembered by PE Kit (check Part 2 of this blog to find out about PE Kits), because that is what I spent the rest of the day wearing. Oh, I always watched my back when Sean as around after that.

So what’s the lesson? I discovered that day how important it is to look at how people treat others when deciding if I can trust them. Some guy maybe as nice as pie to me, but if he tries to control his wife and those around, one day he’s going to try to control me. One woman may do me right, but if she is dishonest with other people, she will one day be dishonest with me.

You cannot use how someone treats you as a benchmark as to whether you can trust them, trust should only be given when you how a complete view of how they treat the other people in their lives. Imagine if David had done this exercise when he decided to trust King Saul? He probably would not have gone through all those years on the run as Israels most wanted!

So who are you trusting that you shouldn’t be? Just remember the way they treat others will eventually be the way they’ll treat you!